Where What Comes Next Starts to Take Shape

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Who I help

I work with widowed women who’ve moved past the hardest days and are asking a bigger question: what now?

You're not looking for more sympathy — you're looking for purpose, direction, and a community leader who sees your potential to lead life, not just your loss.

If you're ready to turn your experience into mentorship, advocacy, or leadership of your own, you're in the right place.

Let's work together

Hi, I'm Carolyn

I’m a widow advocate, mentor, author, speaker, and a widow, personally, for over 25 years

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On Valentine's Day, 2000, my husband Chad was killed by a hit-and-run driver. I was 37, with two young daughters, and no idea how to keep going — let alone how to lead anyone anywhere.

What I found in the months and years that followed wasn't a lack of sympathy. It was a lack of anything after the sympathy. No roadmap for who I was supposed to become. No community was built for women who didn't just want to survive widowhood, but wanted to grow through it — and eventually, to lead because of it.

So I started building what I couldn't find.

In 2006, I told my story on national television, and Oprah Winfrey looked at me and asked what I was going to do with it. That question sat with me for five years.

In 2011, the answer became Modern Widows Club® — The Movement for Widow Care® — started in my own living room with a handful of women who understood exactly what I meant when I said the hardest part wasn't the loss. It was not knowing who to become next.

15 years later, that living room has grown into a global movement. I've spent that time doing more than surviving — raising my daughters, running a business, and building the frameworks, research, and community I wish someone had handed me on day one. I'm 26 years into this journey now, and I can tell you honestly: I have walked every stage of Hope, Heal, Grow, and Lead myself, more than once.

If you're standing where I once stood — unsure what comes after the worst has already happened — I'm not here to tell you it gets easy. I'm here to tell you it can lead somewhere. I'm proof, and I'd be honored to help you find your own way there.

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“I admire Carolyn Moor so much for her advocacy. I'm starting to 'get it.' It's a gross oversight that our governments give so little support to women in life-changing situations.”

–BETTY C.

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How I Can Help

You don't have to build this next chapter alone, and you don't have to figure it out from scratch — I've already built the path. Through PIVOT, my 6-month virtual mentoring program at Modern Widows Club®, I walk beside you as you move from where you are now into leadership, mentorship, and purpose.

If you're not ready for that yet, you can start with the Modern Widows Club Substack app, called Widow Life®, the Healthy Widow Healthy Woman podcast, or step into the wider community through Modern Widows Club® itself.

And if you're further along and looking to bring this message to your own organization or audience, I'm also available to speak, and my books are there to walk with you chapter by chapter, whenever you need them.

Wherever you're starting from, there's a next step here built for you.

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Get to

know me

**Before Modern Widows Club, what did you do?**

I ran my own interior design business — which explains why I still can't walk into a room without mentally rearranging the furniture and I always choose beautiful spaces for events.

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Coffee or tea?

Coffee in the morning, herbal cinnamon tea at night.

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Introvert or extrovert?

Full ENFJ. I light up around people, and I've never met a stranger I didn't want to hear the story of.

Any pets?

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A rescue cat who runs the household and knows it. He’s our MWC mascot often intervening in ZOOM calls.

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What’s always on your calendar?

Travel, whenever I can sneak it in. New places have a way of reminding me that the world is still wide open.

Favorite part of your week?

Watching another widow decide she's ready to lead her life or to lead with others. It never gets old.

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“I started PIVOT a year and a half into widowhood. I was out of the fog of the first year, but I could feel myself slipping toward the negative, and I didn’t want that path. PIVOT helped me build the resiliency skills I needed to heal and move forward. It taught me that resiliency is a skill we can learn, not just a trait we possess, and that happiness can happen again after loss. Carolyn has a contagious heart for healing, and I know I wouldn’t be as healthy or happy today without Modern Widows Club and PIVOT. I would recommend it to any widow!"

–KATIE S.
“PIVOT gave me the support and resources to find my new self after my husband passed away. Instead of asking ‘What happens now?’ I realized there was a future for me. It taught me to care for myself physically, mentally, and spiritually, and gave me the confidence and clarity to step into a future I didn’t ask for. I encourage every Wister to consider PIVOT. Thank you, Carolyn and MWC!”

–ROSE P.
“In February 2018, I lost my husband of 18 years to lung cancer. After five months of searching for grief support, I found Modern Widows Club online, and my life truly restarted at the Widow Empowerment Event. There I joined PIVOT, a small, intimate group of women walking the same road. PIVOT helped me find healthy ways to grieve, manage my finances, and open my heart to a new relationship. I have since remarried, and I still lean on these skills and the friendships I made. I highly recommend PIVOT to widows at any stage. Life doesn’t have to stop with the death of our loved one."

–KELLI L., BSN RN

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